Thursday, May 12, 2016

MOMMIEKNOWSFRESH: AND THEN THERE WAS 4...



Dear Heart,

Every year on your birthday I write my promises to you for the upcoming year.  I can't believe that you're four years old now!  In my mind you were just born, yet you show me every day just how much of a "Big girl" you're  becoming.  You inspire me so much my sweet daughter, and this year is no different.  Well I'm fibbing (remember what I said about fibbing....all the nopes) instead of writing my promises to you, I wanted to share four things I like about you instead.  Let me explain:  I LOVE EVERYTHING SINGLE THING ABOUT YOU, but I also LIKE so many things about you too.  Those things are so important because as your personality grows you show me glimpses of the women you will become, and she's awesome.  Though you can tell by my teary eyed reaction to every milestone,  I'm in no rush to meet her just yet (slow down please, ugh)   And though my list is a mile long, Here's four things I like about you on your fourth birthday:

You're really funny

When you're grown and pursuing one of your many talents in the world I will be taking full credit for your sense of humor, because you are really funny.  There have been times when I'm trying to be serious mommy and I can't keep a straight face.  You continuously crack me up with your silly dance moves and infectious laughter, which can only be described as a cross between a giggly kid and a witch’s cackle. Never change.

You're determined

Oh my strong willed, sometimes stubborn, never take no for an answer child.  You have taught me another level of patience, lol.  I admire your persistence (just not at bedtime) and I know that whatever you want to accomplish in life you will. Know what else I know?  That your dad and I will be right by your side every step of the way.


You're sweet

Even at this young age you are so in tune with your emotions and the emotions of others.  Always asking how I’m feeling, hugging me when I’m under the weather, or just to show you care, these are the moments that make the best memories.  Like when I yell “cuddle time” and you jump into my arms, or when you pause your playing to tell me “I love you”, it always seems to come just when I need it.   Never forget that kindness is not weakness, it’s the way we show the important people in our lives that we love them.


You're brave

Now this is a tricky one to explain, how is a four year old brave?  Well as your mommy it's my job to observe you, and I see you do things that I know take you away from your comfort zone. Though you can be shy at times, you don't let that stop you from making friends, having fun, or trying something new.  Mommy is waaaay older than four and sometimes even I don't always do that.  Though you are still small, I want you to live fearless (safe, but fearless), continue to step out of that comfort zone, because that’s where you’ll find greatness.

I LOVE YOU

Mom


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Thursday, April 7, 2016

MOMMIEKNOWSFRESH: WHERE'S THE LOVE?






January 1st is a day notoriously filled with optimism.  People everywhere are waking up with declarations to be better versions of themselves, myself included.  One of the ways I do this is by making a vision board, which is basically a collage of images and words that reflect my personal goals.  I like to think of it as my visual plan for the upcoming year, but this time around I just couldn't get into it.  I had the board, optimistic clippings, and self-sticking tape. I was all set and ready to go.  Then something hit me, the reason I couldn't get into it was because these things represented what I wanted, not what I needed.  Let me explain.

A long time ago I had made it up in my mind that I needed to be some sort of "super mom" who juggled work and family while making Pinterest worthy meals every night with not a hair out of place.  Needless to say this was exhausting to keep up. This "super mom" ideal was taking a toll on my spirit, but I didn't know it yet.  I was sluggish, irritable, and emotional.  I thought I was just tired from trying to juggle all the balls in my life.  But I was dropping the most important ball of all, the one that belonged to me.

Somewhere along the line I forgot about caring for myself.  It's almost like I traded love of self for the love of my daughter, and I was miserable.  You read so many things that tell you that parenting is all about being selfless, but at what cost? I had become the haggard tired mother that I always joked about and I only had myself to blame.  My toddler never asked me to focus only on her, the only things she asks me for is cupcakes and to buy her more songs on iTunes.

The one question I get asked the most is “What’s it like being a parent?”  Let’s see…it’s like your sleeping and someone splashes ice cold water on you.  It’s a jarring splash of reality, a rebirth in a sense.  You are instantly aware of everything, and the love you have for this teeny tiny human being is enormous.  So enormous that you may inadvertently put yourself "on hold" so to speak, to become the type of parent you think they need.  You know the kind of parent they need? One who not only loves them unconditionally, but also loves themselves the same way. I was completely immersed in every aspect of motherhood and don’t get me wrong, it was beautifully bright, but this newfound role came with a rollercoaster of emotions.

I was blessed but I was also stressed, and as the popular quote says the two cannot coexist. Then it came to me, in order to be a good mom, a good wife, a good friend, I had to take care of myself first.  So I stopped complaining about not having any time and I made time: to meditate, to read a book, to basically do whatever the hell I wanted and you know what? It felt good. 

We hear the term "Self-Care" so often, but how many of us are really taking care of ourselves the way that we should?  It's so easy to get caught up; I've got a stack of unread magazines that prove this point whole heartedly, but I find that even taking a little time, ten minutes even, makes a big difference in my overall wellness.

Being a parent is the most AMAZING thing that has ever happened to me, it's also a tough ass job that requires me to be the best version of myself, to love myself first.  So when I revisited my vision board I included only one word: Love.  Because when you love yourself, everything else just falls into place.




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Monday, September 14, 2015

MOMMIEKNOWSFRESH: A NEW YORK FASHION WEEK SURVIVAL GUIDE FOR MOMS TO BE



Me, 7 months preg




New York Fashion Week is here and I couldn’t be more excited.  Though as a mom now I spend most of my time in comfort wear, I do still enjoy getting dressed up for fancy occasions.  I originally wrote this post back when I was seven months pregnant with Mickey and attending shows was high priority.  If you’re a mom to be here are a few tips to get you through New York Fashion Week:


Flats are a must




Kudos to Kim Kardashian for rocking those five inch heels well into her pregnancy, but when you're running from show to show high heels just aren't practical.  With that being said you shouldn't have to sacrifice style for comfort, so invest in a pair of funky flats in a fun print and keep on stepping. Brands like Kelsi Dagger and Steve Madden offer some really cute options.


Your charger is your best friend





Now this one is not just for those of that are expecting, it's for everyone attending New York Fashion Week.....don't forget your charger for your phone, laptop, iPad, etc. With the large amount of tweeting, texting, blogging, and picture taking that you will be doing you can expect your battery to be low a few times a day. And for me I need to be reachable at all times, so I pack a spare charger and seek out outlets like a bloodhound.

Water, Water, Everywhere





As a pregnant woman you constantly need to stay hydrated. Unfortunately the further along you are the smaller your bladder seems to get, I mean like blueberry size small (TMI yes, but sharing is caring) so know your bathroom locations beforehand. Thankfully most venues have some pretty decent bathrooms for when you've gotta go, gotta go right now, and if not there’s a Starbucks on every corner.

Presentations Please



I love the excitement of a runway show, but sometimes the shows get too crowded, seats are scarce, and you end up with lousy pictures and a sweaty bang stuck to your head (trust me, I know). That's why presentations are your friend. You're free to move around and you can actually see the clothing up close and personal, which in turn makes for amazing photos!


Be a Stream Queen






 Finally, a pregnant woman's best friend is rest, which of course means fewer shows on your schedule.  But you don’t have to feel left out as more and more designers are streaming their shows online. I can catch all my favs live on my laptop in my pjs with my feet up. That's almost as good as front row....almost.



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Tuesday, August 4, 2015

MOMMIEKNOWSFRESH: 7 GIF's THAT PERFECTLY DESCRIBE WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A PARENT

Parenting is the hardest shit I've ever done. Like someone can come to me and say "Hey! I climbed Mount Everest last week" "Yeah, but I'm a parent" "Hey! I just colonized the moon!!!" "Yeah, but I'm a parent" it's that damn hard.  You never thought you could love another human being so much that you could explode, but you can and you will....explode.  You'll explode because the broccoli and cheese macaroni you made for dinner from scratch will be tossed aside with a new found declaration from your toddler of "I don't like broccoli".  But it's okay because these episodes are a few and far between, Okay I'm lying to you, it's all the damn time!!!! But you love them so much you take it with a grain of salt, and a tub of wine.

And because sometimes I just can't put the joy of parenting into words here are 7 Gifs that show what it's like to be a parent, choose wisely:


It’s scary:







It’s funny:








It’s stressful:




It’s joy:





It’s silly:




It’s exhausting:




And finally, It’s everything:












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Thursday, July 2, 2015

MOMMIEKNOWSFRESH: ATTACK OF THE 3 FOOT MONSTER AKA THE TODDLER YEARS



Okay, so it goes without saying that I am in awe of my daughter.  She is bright, beautiful, and I'm most proud of the fact that she's funny as hell (ABC's? Nah, tell me a joke!) Like most toddlers she is finding her way and establishing herself as an individual in a world that is still fairly new to her.  It's a wonderful thing to see and I hope to live through it without pulling out all my hair.  Let me explain:
No matter what you hear about the toddler years YOU ARE NOT READY. My beautiful sweet little baby has turned into my boss.  The tantrums come fast and fierce and it takes a lot of deep breaths to parent such a "spirited" toddler (lol).

As parents we have come up with appropriate names for these stages, "The Terrible Twos", "Threenager", "Fournado", it's just how we cope.  You thought tantrums were bad? Wait until you have a toddler telling you "No I am not!”  aah the joy of full sentences.
A million thoughts run through my mind during one of these exchanges, I get it she's three, but maaaaaan she's emptying out mommy’s patience tank on a daily basis. So what do you do?  Well, since running away to Mexico until she's 18 is not an option (I checked) here are a few tips for surviving the toddler years with your edges intact:

Drink Wine and Meditate



After being with a toddler all day you need to drink.  If drinking is not your thing (insert hysterical mom laughter) then I HIGHLY recommend taking a few minutes to find your "OM".  You go from Mommy Hulk to Claire Huxtable in a matter of minutes. Chanting is optional though my favorite is "I am a good mom; I am a good mom...." Namaste.


Run away from home



Before you think I'm crazy I don't mean forever. Take a day for yourself, by yourself to do whatever you choose. It'll be fun and when you get back you'll miss your kids so much you won't mind that they smeared peanut butter all over you new couch. It was so new....


Form an all mom support group



I never feel better then when I talk to my mom friends. You've got a picky eater? Well they do too and you can hug, laugh, and cry together.  In the words of the great philosopher Dr. Dre they have "been there, done that" they have survived and you will too.  Find some moms, make friends; you’ll thank me for it.







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Thursday, June 4, 2015

MOMMIEKNOWSFRESH: THREE THINGS I WISH I KNEW BEFORE BECOMING A MOM






Though I'm almost three years in I still consider myself to be a new mom. I'm still learning and growing into the woman and mom that I want to be, food stains,spilled milk and all.   There are nights that I'm too exhausted to sweep and days where my healthy dinner plans turn into takeout.  Times when I'm racked with a case of "mom guilt" so severe that it feels almost paralyzing. I've never felt more human in my entire life than I do as mother. Navigating my way through the many emotions of motherhood often leaves me sobbing into my Vegetable Lo Mein.
But I wouldn't jump into a time machine and change any of it.  The decision to have my daughter was by far the best decision I have ever made.  It has made me a better person, a stronger person who continues to grow stronger every day.  With that being said I have a few things I wish I knew before becoming a mom:



1) As a mother you will forever be a work in progress

There is no "perfect" when it comes to motherhood.  As a mother you will forever be evolving and changing into the type of mom that your child needs you to be at that time in their life. The one constant is that every action will be from a place of love and THAT'S what matters the most.



2) Time is not your friend

Time is like Ice cream, it goes too fast and you never have enough of it (most of my zen like quotes contain food references).  Before I had my daughter it seemed like I had all the time in the world.  Now I'm lucky if I get to read a magazine, and my baby? Well I'm gonna blink and she'll be in college at this rate!  But you've got to slow down, play a little more before bedtime, and dance a little more before dinner.  While time may be fleeting, your memories are forever.



3) You will be an emotional wreck


Finally while I'm no Rambo, emotionally I considered myself to be a pretty tough cookie. Well now, my daughter calls me "mama" and my eyes start leaking strange salty fluid. I just never knew I could love another human being so much until I had a child.  So be forewarned, and always carry tissues. 


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Sunday, May 10, 2015

MOMMIEKNOWSFRESH: 9 MOMMIE BLOGGERS SHARE WHAT THEY REALLY WANT FOR MOTHER'S DAY





When you think of Mother's Day you think of showering that special Mom in your life with flowers, maybe a nice card, or something sweet to show them that they are loved and appreciated.  Personally a nice quiet day with my family is at the top of my list this Mother's Day and I think that you'll find I'm not alone among other moms.
To prove that point I asked 9 of my favorite mom bloggers to share with me what they really want this Mother's Day here’s what they had to say:

Name: Andrea Arterbery

What I really want for Mother's Day is a lovely spa day to relax, unwind and have a bit of peace and quiet. It would also be nice if my son would just, you know, potty train himself. 😁

Name: Kim S.


For Mother's Day I'd really love a family vacation since we haven't had one in close to a year. We need to connect as a family without the everyday distractions of work, blogging, etc.

Name: Valerie Pierre



What I really want for Mother's Day is a solo vacation. The weekend away will let me have some extended mommy me time to indulge in activities just for me so that I can return home feeling rejuvenated and recharged.

Name: Charlotte Betts





I'd love to sleep in ... at least until 8am, but my toddler's internal clock is set for 6am and she's not happy until everyone is up haha! Truth be told, I'm a simple gal! Lots of hugs and kisses from my little one and just being able to enjoy my little family is what I want this mother's day... and donuts... lots of donuts.


Name: Akia René




For my first Mother's Day this year all I really want is take out from my favorite Thai restaurant and to enjoy it on the couch with my husband, glass of wine not optional.



Name: Fatima Lora



This Mother's Day, I'd love some "me time," even if it's an extra half hour in bed, and chocolate-covered strawberries. :)


Name: Shaniqua Garvin




I would love to finally sit at home, relax and binge watch TV with my son. Or sleep in and then go to the spa with the Mamas in my life, my mom, aunt and besties. Forget the dressing up and going out



Name: Christina Brown


(Photo Credit Kesha Lambert)


What I REALLY want for Mother's Day (besides a cleaning lady and maybe a pair of Louboutins) is to guarantee that my baby girl will grow up happy, healthy and with an unlimited well of self-confidence. I struggled so much as a young girl with feeling confident in my looks and what I want for her is that she is happy with who she is - always!



Name: Danielle


All I want for mother's day is to spend time with my family building more memories together!


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